{"id":17,"date":"2014-02-05T14:16:25","date_gmt":"2014-02-05T22:16:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.matthewsrosin.com\/?page_id=17"},"modified":"2021-09-27T12:52:14","modified_gmt":"2021-09-27T19:52:14","slug":"reflections","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.matthewsrosin.com\/?page_id=17","title":{"rendered":"Fatherhood Is Learning"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>&#8220;. . . reflection is native and constant.&#8221; &#8211; John Dewey<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-left\"><em>Jump to:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em><a href=\"#Book\">Fatherhood Is Learning\u2014The Book<\/a><\/em><\/li><li><em><a href=\"#Newsletter\">Fatherhood Is Learning\u2014The Newsletter<\/a><\/em><\/li><li><em><a href=\"#Essays\">List of published essays, articles<\/a><\/em><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Book\">Fatherhood Is Learning\u2014The Book<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Published Sept. 2021\u2014<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Fatherhood-Learning-Becoming-memoir-essays\/dp\/B09GXKFH2C\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Buy it here!<\/a><\/h5>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignright size-full is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Fatherhood-Learning-Becoming-memoir-essays\/dp\/B09GXKFH2C\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.matthewsrosin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/ROSIN-Fatherhood-Is-Learning-FINAL-COVER-ART-FRONT-ONLY-web-300-width.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1376\" width=\"221\" height=\"354\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.matthewsrosin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/ROSIN-Fatherhood-Is-Learning-FINAL-COVER-ART-FRONT-ONLY-web-300-width.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.matthewsrosin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/ROSIN-Fatherhood-Is-Learning-FINAL-COVER-ART-FRONT-ONLY-web-300-width-188x300.jpg 188w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 221px) 100vw, 221px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>When I decided to become a stay-at-home dad, after having earned a Ph.D. in the philosophy of education and worked in nonprofits for nearly a decade, I knew I\u2019d learn at least as much from my kids as they would learn from me. I was excited to take part in opening up American gender roles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I didn\u2019t anticipate how easily my anxieties about competence and failing as a caregiver would spark reactivity and self-judgment during difficult parenting moments, nor how I would reinforce my social isolation by avoiding other parents whose judgments I feared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em>\u00a0shares how I\u2019m becoming the man my kids need me to be through reflection, mindfulness, and friendship, and how loyalty to this cause has transformed my understanding of love and myself. The book is for any man who cares about healthy masculinity, yearns to be the responsive dad his kids deserve, and seeks connection\u2014and for the people who love these men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The book is available in\u00a0<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Fatherhood-Learning-Becoming-memoir-essays\/dp\/B09GXKFH2C\/\" target=\"_blank\">paperback (from Amazon)<\/a>\u00a0and from all the usual e-book retailers\u00a0<\/strong>(e.g., Amazon, Barnes &amp; Noble, etc.) If you want to be able to hold a copy in your hand, whether paper or on a tablet\/reader, and\/or if you want to support my work by buying a copy, these are the formats for you. The text is also available as\u00a0<strong>a free-to-read suite of serialized posts<\/strong>\u00a0at my new Fatherhood Is Learning newsletter at Substack (see below).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Newsletter\">Fatherhood Is Learning\u2014The Newsletter<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><meta charset=\"utf-8\">Launched Sept. 2021\u2014<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Subscribe here!<\/a><\/h5>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignright size-full is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.matthewsrosin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/FIL-front-page-300-width.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1377\" width=\"283\" height=\"207\"\/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">My <em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em> newsletter on Substack<\/a> is a place for\u00a0<strong>learning together<\/strong>\u00a0about what it takes to cultivate a\u00a0<strong>mindful, connected, and just practice of parenthood and masculinity<\/strong>, for ourselves and the people we love. May we devote ourselves to all that wholehearted engagement with our loved ones\u2014and especially with our children\u2014can teach us. We\u2019re in this together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In addition to hosting the online version of my memoir, the newsletter is where I post blogs and short essays, reflection prompts, songs, videos, and some curated reflections on interesting books, studies, music, organizations, and the like. Down the road, I hope to interview other dads and masculine-of-center parents about how parenthood has changed their understanding of themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Throughout, I\u2019ll tackle topics like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Reflection, mindfulness, and moving from automatic reaction to curious response.<\/li><li>Navigating raw feeling in the moment and understanding mistakes and conditioned reactions, so we can live out our higher values more effectively.<\/li><li>Vulnerability as an act of loyalty toward our kids.<\/li><li>Mental health and healthy masculinity.<\/li><li>Friendship.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>In essence, I\u2019m building the kind of reflective resource that I would have loved to grab hold of when I became a dad myself. With time, I hope the newsletter site will become a true learning community\u2014and I hope you\u2019ll join me for the journey. <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Please subscribe!<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Essays\">List of published essays, articles<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>From Fire To Mercy: A Conversation Between Steven Wingate and Matthew S. Rosin<\/strong> \/\u00a0<em>First published: <a style=\"font-size: revert;\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"https:\/\/www.matthewsrosin.com\/?p=1188\" target=\"_blank\">matthewsrosin.com, April 24, 2020<\/a><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">.<\/span><\/em><\/li><li><strong>The Joy of Cuddling With My Kid In the Middle Of the Night<\/strong> \/ <em>First published: <a style=\"font-size: revert;\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fatherly.com\/love-money\/joy-of-cuddling-with-my-kid-in-the-middle-of-the-night\/\" target=\"_blank\">Fatherly (Fatherly Voices series), July 25, 2019<\/a><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">.<\/span><\/em><\/li><li><strong>Learning To Connect<\/strong> \/ First published: <em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">, Issue #10 (Winter 2018). \/ Republished: <\/span><em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\"> online, February 8, 2019.<\/span> \/ <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/p\/learning-to-connect\" target=\"_blank\">REVISED AND REPUBLISHED in <em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em>, 2021!<\/a><\/li><li><strong>Learning To Forgive the Man I Don&#8217;t Want To Be<\/strong> \/ First published: <em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">, Issue #9 (Summer 2018). \/ Republished: <\/span><em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\"> online, October 10, 2018.<\/span> \/ <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/p\/learning-to-forgive-the-man-i-dont\" target=\"_blank\">REVISED AND REPUBLISHED in <em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em>, 2021!<\/a><\/li><li><strong>Learning To Meet a Need<\/strong> \/ First published: <em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\"> online, May 30, 2018.<\/span> \/ <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/p\/learning-to-trust\" target=\"_blank\">REVISED AND REPUBLISHED as &#8220;Learning To Trust&#8221; in <em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em>, 2021!<\/a><\/li><li><strong>Learning To Smile<\/strong> \/ First published: <em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">, Issue #8 (Winter 2018). \/ Republished: <\/span><em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\"> online, March 21, 2018.<\/span>  \/ <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/p\/learning-to-smile\" target=\"_blank\">REVISED AND REPUBLISHED in <em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em>, 2021!<\/a><\/li><li><strong>Learning To Smell the Flowers<\/strong> \/ First published: <em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\"> online, December 4, 2017.<\/span> \/ <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/p\/learning-to-be-present\" target=\"_blank\">REVISED AND REPUBLISHED as &#8220;Learning To Be Present&#8221; in <em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em>, 2021!<\/a><\/li><li><strong>The Dad In the Room<\/strong> \/ First published: <em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">, Issue #3 (Spring 2016). \/ Republished: <\/span><em style=\"font-size: revert;\">STAND Magazine<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert;\"> online, April 28, 2017.<\/span> \/ <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/p\/the-dad-in-the-room\" target=\"_blank\">REVISED AND REPUBLISHED in <em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em>, 2021!<\/a><\/li><li><strong>Letter to My Toddler<\/strong> \/ First published: <a style=\"font-size: revert;\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"http:\/\/www.onbeing.org\/blog\/letter-to-my-toddler\/7681\" target=\"_blank\"><i>On Being blog<\/i>, June 21, 2015<\/a><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">.<\/span> \/ <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/fatherhoodislearning.substack.com\/p\/a-letter-to-my-toddler\" target=\"_blank\">REVISED AND REPUBLISHED in <em>Fatherhood Is Learning<\/em>, 2021!<\/a><\/li><li><em>Quoted in<\/em>&#8230;<ul><li>Fatherly, &#8220;How I Want to Be Celebrated for Father\u2019s Day,&#8221; June 9, 2020.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;. . . reflection is native and constant.&#8221; &#8211; John Dewey Jump to: Fatherhood Is Learning\u2014The Book Fatherhood Is Learning\u2014The Newsletter List of published essays, articles Fatherhood Is Learning\u2014The Book Published Sept. 2021\u2014Buy it here! 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